Create The Relationship Of Your Dreams With The Person You Love
Our 16-Week IFS Journey with Conscious Couples brings your relationship vision to life.
This is a research based, yet human approach to harmonious relationships.
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Three Simple Steps To Harmonious Relationships
1. Choose The Program To Fit Your Lifestyle and Budget
Commit to working on yourself with or without your dream partner.
2. Access Your Program, At Your Time, Listen At Your Pace
On your program start date, jump into the modules and enjoy the journey.
3. Grow And Flourish In All Relationships
These are timeless lessons that guide you to conscious relationships with all people.
A Unique Coaching Program,
crafted to enrich and deepen your relationships in just a few transformative weeks, you'll see a significant change in your understanding and involvement in your marriage or partnership. But the impact of this program goes beyond just your romantic relationship – the skills and insights you gain will positively affect all your significant relationships.
This approach is more than a promise; it's a research-backed commitment. Our program is based on the well-researched principles of internal family systems (IFS) and the transformative power of courageous love, both of which have shown remarkable effectiveness in improving relationship dynamics. This coaching isn't just another method – it's a guaranteed way to bring about meaningful change in how you connect with those around you.
In your relationships, do you ever ask yourself...
Why am I stuck in this loop of recurring behaviours?
Butting Heads Over and Over: Feeling stuck in a loop of the same arguments, despite genuinely trying to understand each other.
Blurred Lines of Responsibility: Frequently finding yourself apologising or taking blame, adding confusion and mess to your relationship.
Lonely in Togetherness: Giving so much to the relationship yet feeling a growing sense of loneliness and isolation.
Resentment Overshadowing Love: Struggling with emotions of frustration and resentment that dim the strong love you once felt.
Caught in the Merry-Go-Round of Issues: Feeling like you're on a never-ending cycle, facing the same issues without any progress.
Weighed Down by the Unsaid: The space between you filled with words left unspoken and problems left unresolved.
Doubting the Relationship's Worth: Constantly questioning if the relationship can be salvaged or if it's even worth the effort.
Seeking Courage for Change: Recognising the need for change in the relationship, a brave step towards a healthier, more loving partnership.
To break free from repetitive behaviour patterns in relationships, it's important to compassionately explore the deeper parts of ourselves that drive these cycles. This journey goes beyond basic communication and boundary-setting; it involves understanding the intricate internal forces shaping our interactions. Recognising that traditional counselling might not always address these deeper elements, embracing our inner complexities with kindness is vital for fostering healthier, more fulfilling relationships.
My Intentions For You
- Learn to recognise and appreciate the diverse 'parts' within you and your partner.
- Gain insights into how these internal dynamics impact your relationship.
- Develop effective communication and conflict resolution tools based on a deeper understanding of each other's needs and motivations.
This journey aligns with your desire for a more conscious, connected, and fulfilling partnership. It's an opportunity to transform your relationship and your personal growth and understanding.
Join us at Conscious Couples, where love intertwines with understanding, transforming every challenge into a stepping stone for growth and deeper connection.
At our core, we're dedicated to fostering genuine connections, unearthing profound truths, and contributing to humanity.
It can be hard to face the truths of relationship challenges.
Our focus is on delving into the real reasons relationships face turbulence and guiding you through the transformative process of courageous love - a journey not just to repair but to understand and strengthen the bonds you share on a deep level.
Richard Schwartz, founder of IFS, offers insightful perspectives on this, highlighting common pitfalls and a transformative approach called Courageous Love.
Common Challenges in Relationships
- Forcing Change: Often, we try to mold our partners into our ideal or expect them to change in ways that suit us.
- Self-Change for Approval: We sometimes lose ourselves by trying to become what we think our partner desires.
- Withdrawal from Love: This can manifest as seeking love elsewhere, numbing our feelings to cope in the relationship, or stifling our desire for love to embrace solitude.
At Conscious Couples, we invite you to a space where love is an act of bravery, and every challenge is a stepping stone to a deeper connection.
Courageous Love is deeply interwoven with Internal Family Systems (IFS) principles and HeartMath® techniques
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Self-Healing by Embracing All Parts: Discover harmony in relationships by nurturing every aspect of yourself, laying the groundwork for stronger, more authentic connections with your partner.
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Transforming Conflicts with Self-Compassion: Learn to manage conflicts effectively by understanding and soothing your own triggered parts, leading to better communication and deeper understanding with your partner.
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Strengthening Personal and Partner Relationships: Enhance your partnership by deeply knowing and loving all parts of yourself, a key focus in our program that fosters both personal and relationship growth.
Join us on this enlightening journey at Conscious Couples, where Courageous Love and IFS principles unite in a beautiful union. Here, you'll discover a loving and safe space to explore and grow both individually and as a couple, understanding that every part of you is a step toward a more profound, loving connection.
Your Path, Your Choice, Your Program Options
We use the IFS model as the foundational framework in every section of our program. This approach isn't just about learning new relationship skills; it's about delving deep into your internal world and understanding how it shapes your interactions with your partner. Imagine uncovering the intricate parts of yourself that influence how you love, communicate, and connect. It's about fostering a profound self-awareness that naturally translates into greater emotional intelligence and relational harmony.
You get to choose your journey to fit in with your lifestyle
1. The Self-Guided Journey:
This option offers extensive course materials that are ideal for those who cherish independence and self-paced learning. It suits busy lifestyles and those who prefer private reflection before collaborative discussions and the application of learned concepts.
2. The Group Expedition:
If shared experiences uplift you, this path is ideal. Join us in weekly virtual group sessions with an expert facilitator, where you'll find a supportive community, gain diverse insights, and learn from others' experiences, all aligned with our program's curriculum.
3. The Personalised Voyage:
Opt for one-on-one sessions with a specialised IFS relationship coach for a journey uniquely tailored to your relationship. This premium choice offers 16 weeks of personalised guidance and addresses your relationship's specific dynamics and challenges.
Just incase any parts of you have doubts, we honour those parts
Here's Why Our Program Stands Out
Enhanced Communication
You master the art of openness, and honesty, and turn potential conflicts into opportunities for strengthening your relationship bond.
Deeper Connection
You can truly understand and be compassionate with your partner, moving beyond surface-level interactions to a deeper emotional connection.
Strengthen Trust and Honesty
You will overcome relationship challenges like infidelity and insecurity, building a foundation of unshakeable trust and mutual respect.
Aligned Values And Goals
You discover and align your core values and life principles, ensuring a harmonious and supportive partnership and formulating firm foundations.
Foster Personal Growth
You actively engage in self-exploration and growth, enhancing your relationship and your well-being and fulfilment within your union.
Navigate Life Together
You develop skills and insights to serve your relationship long after the program, ensuring ongoing growth, understanding, and love.
Module 1: Establishing Foundations with IFS
Weeks 1-3: Understanding Self and Other
In the first three weeks, we focus on the foundational understanding of 'parts' within yourselves and your partner. This stage is key to:
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Identifying 'Parts': You'll learn to recognise the various facets of personality and emotion in yourself and your partner, understanding how these influence your relationship dynamics.
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Developing Empathy and Listening: Enhancing your ability to empathise and actively listen, you'll gain deeper insight into each other's experiences and perspectives.
This initial phase is about building the groundwork for a deeper connection, fostering mutual understanding and respect for the complexity of each other’s inner worlds.
Module 2: Deepening Connection through IFS
Weeks 4-5: Enhancing Intimacy with Self-Leadership
In weeks 4 and 5, our journey shifts towards deepening intimacy through self-leadership, a crucial aspect of IFS:
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Exploring Influence of 'Parts' on Intimacy: We delve into how the different 'parts' within each of you play a role in emotional intimacy. This exploration helps us understand how these elements either foster or hinder a deeper connection.
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Practising Self-Leadership for Emotional Management: You'll learn and implement self-leadership techniques to manage emotional responses effectively. This skill is vital in reducing reactivity and fostering a climate of mutual understanding and deeper emotional connection.
These two weeks are dedicated to enhancing the intimacy in your relationship by recognising and connecting to the intricate dynamics of your individual 'parts', leading to a more harmonious and connected partnership.
Module 3: Strengthening Commitment
Weeks 6-8: Harmonising Internal Parts for Relationship Growth
During weeks 6 to 8, the focus is on harmonising internal parts to foster relationship growth:
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Harmonizing Conflict-contributing Parts: We'll identify and harmonise the internal 'parts' that often lead to conflicts or miscommunications within your relationship. Understanding these aspects is crucial for reducing friction and enhancing harmony.
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Effective Communication and Self-worth through IFS: Applying IFS principles, you'll develop strategies for more effective and empathetic communication. Simultaneously, these practices will help nurture self-worth, an essential component of a healthy, committed relationship.
This module aims to guide you in aligning your internal dynamics with your relationship goals, creating a more understanding, supportive, and committed partnership.
Module 4: Navigating Challenges
Weeks 9-14: Resolving Conflicts and Fostering Forgiveness
In weeks 9 to 14, we delve into the crucial aspects of resolving conflicts and fostering forgiveness through the lens of IFS:
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Conflict Resolution through Understanding: Using IFS principles, you'll learn to approach conflicts with a focus on understanding rather than assigning blame. This approach helps identify the root causes of disagreements and find more empathetic, effective solutions.
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Forgiveness and Reconciliation: We'll emphasise the role of different 'parts' in the process of forgiveness and reconciliation. Recognising these aspects within each other facilitates deeper empathy, aiding the healing and forgiveness process within your relationship.
Module 5: Personal Growth and Future Directions
Weeks 15-16: Integrating IFS for Ongoing Growth
In the final two weeks, the emphasis is on integrating your learnings from IFS for continuous personal and relationship growth:
- Consolidating IFS Learnings: We will focus on how to apply the insights and strategies you've gained to sustain and nurture your relationship long-term. This consolidation is vital for maintaining the positive changes and growth you've experienced.
- Continued Self-Exploration and Reflection: A significant part of these final weeks involves encouraging ongoing self-exploration and reflection. This practice is essential for maintaining a healthy, dynamic relationship, allowing for continuous understanding and adaptation.
These concluding sessions are designed to equip you with the tools and mindset for a lifelong growth journey, both as individuals and as partners, grounded in the principles of IFS.
Weekly Group Coaching: Your Path to Growth
Why we chose group coaching
Firstly, it offers a supportive community of peers who share similar relationship experiences and challenges, fostering a sense of camaraderie and understanding.
Secondly, you'll gain insights into the diverse applications of our teachings. The strategies you use to enhance your marriage may simultaneously benefit others in improving their friendships and family relationships, offering a rich, multifaceted learning experience.
Weekly session times
Tuesday 6.30 pm NZT
A Journey For Couples and Singles
Whether in a relationship or currently single, Conscious Couples offers invaluable insights and tools for anyone seeking healthier, more fulfilling relationships. You don't need to be part of a couple to benefit from this journey. If you find yourself repeating relationship patterns, choosing partners based on unmet needs, or feeling sceptical about relationships altogether, this programme is for you.
For Singles: Understand the dynamics of your past relationships and prepare for future ones with greater awareness and clarity. Learn how to build a foundation for a healthy, respectful, and authentic relationship. Discover how to choose a partner who understands your needs and genuinely complements and enriches your life.
For Couples: Together, delve into the depths of your relationship, addressing challenges and strengthening your bond. Learn to communicate more effectively, deepen your understanding of each other, and reignite passion and intimacy.
We are, by nature, relational beings. Relationships can help us thrive, grow, and discover our true selves — but only if they are healthy, respectful, and authentic.
Conscious Couples is an invitation to explore and improve how you relate, whether with a current partner or in preparation for a future relationship.
Embark on This Life-Changing Journey
The time for change is now. Don't let another day go by wishing for healthier, more fulfilling relationships. Whether you're single, dating, or in a long-term partnership, be proactive in your journey towards love and understanding. Join the many who have transformed their relationship approach through the 16-Week Conscious Couples Program.
A Personal Message from Angela, Your IFS Coach
Ki ora, I'm Angela, your coach on the Conscious Couples Program. My dedication to the Internal Family Systems (IFS) model and my own relationship experiences have shaped my expertise in guiding individuals and couples towards enriching their relationships. My personal journey, marked by both challenges and triumphs, has instilled in me the values of compassion, patience, and the courage to delve into the complex dynamics of relationships. In my own life, I've fostered a blissful, conscious relationship based on authenticity and mutual respect, and I aspire to help you achieve the same. Leveraging my professional expertise and personal insights, I offer a nurturing space for growth, connection, and self-discovery. Together, we'll navigate relationship complexities with curiosity, compassion, and calmness. This journey transcends mere solutions; it's a path towards deep self-understanding and lasting personal and relational growth.
Join me in transforming your relationship, where I'll support and celebrate your journey towards a more connected and fulfilling partnership.
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